Obviously ignoring Jennifer Love Hewitt in “Heartbreakers”, is there anyone more insanely hot than Cindy (Amanda Peterson) in the 80′s classic “Can’t Buy Me Love”? If I ever got a chance to meet her, I’d still freeze up like Dirk Nowitzki with the game on the line. As a kid, I would create these insanely dramatic imaginations where I’d swoop in and rescue her from some random “bad guy” trying to attack her. If I was feeling especially creative, I might even drop one of those “cheesy bad action movie hero” lines before doing my best Van Damme impersonation…

… Ok, I’m back. Where were we – That’s right! Now, before you write me off as the geeky kid w/ glasses who falls in love with every fake character in a Hollywood love story (It may already be too late for this), there is a point. Cindy was pretty hot – no doubt. But what set her character apart was that she wasn’t like everyone else. Sure, she was popular, head of the cheerleading squad, and obviously gorgeous. But, she seemed to have class, and she consistently showed that there was more to her than what her popular status would typically indicate. That was the hidden charm that made her character completely irresistible!

Ok, back to earth – Yes, Cindy is a completely fictional character. And for the record, NO – I don’t sit around all day and watch cheesy 80′s movies – Only half the day (Jokes baby, jokes). Lately, I’ve just been hearing a whole lot of complaining from girls about how difficult it is to find a good guy. I’ve heard just about every story & complaint I can possibly imagine. So, in light of this, I decided that I’d chime in on the topic. And, since Cindy was the first girl I ever fell in love with (LOL), I decided to use her as an example.

Sure, my opinion doesn’t necessarily reflect every guy on planet earth, but I think you’d be surprised by how many guys think just like I do!

Here’s a fact – Nobody likes average. Why? Because nobody views themselves as average. We all silently assume that there is something uniquely special about us. Naturally, when we’re looking to find a girl, we don’t want somebody who’s just like everyone else. If we’re uniquely special, then we expect that our girl be the same!

We’re not looking for a girl who will sleep with us. Why? Because we can get that anywhere. Let’s just be honest. Typically, you can give a girl a few shots, and her clothes will drop like Kobe’s jumper against the Raptors. When a girl is willing to hop in bed (or the Jacuzzi, shower, back seat of the SUV, etc), it tells us one thing about her – “She’s no different than any other girl I’ve met.” It entirely appeals to our sexuality. Most guys may open the door to their bedroom, but don’t expect them to open the door of their heart.

I’d venture to say that just about every guy in the world secretly longs for his girl to be the envy of his friends. It may never be vocalized, but the awareness of that reality is more than enough! It all goes back to the self-awareness that we are uniquely exceptional, and want to be with someone who is equally matchless. But, this can never be played out in the real world with a girl who’s always trying to fit in with everyone around her.

In today’s society, fitting in usually means getting plastered on the weekends, spending the night with countless people and typically being only responsible enough to make sure the financial resources are available to support the incessant partying. When we see a girl like this, we view her as a nicely formed compilation of her influences. We see her actions as entirely dependant upon what other people are doing. Most guys will give her a ring when they want to go hit the clubs, but that’s the only kind of ring she’ll ever get from us.

Cindy’s are nowhere to be found anymore. Why? She’s been lost in a sexually confused, communication challenged society. A society that says sexuality is the most powerful thing a woman possesses. A society that says divorce is a viable option to breaking a promise made before God. A society whose customs produce more broken hearts & shattered relationships than they yield happy families. Sure, Cindy may be a fictional character from a sappy 80′s movie, but she represents what just about every decent man in America is really looking for. Your looks will get you the attention of our eyes; your individuality will get you the attention of our hearts.

As for Cindy & I – Well, as a 10 year old kid, she got the attention of both.